By Colleen Bies, Capture Life Moments Photography
Often when I say the word “boudoir”, people start to imagine overly sultry and erotic poses decorated with corsets, garter belts and fishnet tights. OR – they imagine feather boas and pearl necklaces and the overuse of costume jewelry. Well, here is the thing, boudoir does NOT have to be any of this. It’s exactly who you are at your core. If you are a bubbly person and want that light and fun, playful look, then go for it. If not, then choose a different look that appeals to who you are and what you want to project to the world.
I often push the style of “casual boudoir”, because this style is changing the way we see women and the boudoir industry. Casual boudoir is a form of boudoir that involves a less sensual feel to your boudoir photos and session. The word “casual” says it all. Casual can be slipping into a nightgown before bed or sitting at the breakfast nook in your silk pajamas reading a book. I believe in boudoir as a way to empower women of all bodies and all minds. Let’s not allow boudoir to be an object of a partner’s desires, but an object of empowerment and self-confidence.
I believe in this casual and realistic style of boudoir that allows you to enjoy what you are wearing and feel confident in your outfit selections. Casual boudoir is choosing what you love and what you feel comfortable in, not what society thinks you should wear and look like. We’ve all seen lingerie models in magazines, TV and online. These women are beautiful, too. But, the thing is…the standard they help create isn’t realistic.
Casual boudoir is a way for women to wear things that are realistic and functional in their everyday lives. If your every day is coming home and lounging around the house in your underwear with a t-shirt that says #bosslady…then unapologetically throw that on in your boudoir shoot! Let’s get on a mission to make ‘casual boudoir’ the new face of boudoir. Let’s choose functional attire that not only allows us to feel great and look great, but empowers our bodies and minds. This is the future of women empowerment through boudoir.
Colleen Bies is a photographer and owner of Capture Life Moments Photography. Follow her on social media @capturelifemoments